Guest Blogger Miss Kitty Kat on her relationship with her ...

Whoopi Goldberg refers to hers as a Punany, six-year old Kate calls hers tata, Annie cheekily calls hers her va jay jay, Steve calls mine a Punkie and Dufie calls hers a pussy.

I don’t have a name for mine. Why? because I tend to only refer to it in a sexual context. Either I am telling someone to do something to it or with it...and in that instance I call it whatever they call it.

As an 18 year old College student watching the Vagina monologues, I was moved to tears. The stories of the liberated women in the vagina monologues were confrontational, reflective, challenging and beautiful. The only relationship I had with my virginal ____ (insert whatever you want to call it J ) was a tolerating one. After all, periods were no fun and as a tom boy I hated the monthly reminder that I was a girl. All women have a relationship with their vagina, and good or bad this relationship influences their attitudes towards sex, their sexuality, their self-image and even their self-esteem.

With mine, the relationship has improved greatly but the dear thing still doesn’t have a name. . Vagina is too clinical and yet none of the other words fit. They are either too derogatory, remind me too much of porn movies or are just silly *Ahem Woman flower*. What do you call yours? And how do you relate to it? Are you friends? Enemies? or flat mates?


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The Vagina Monologues: Ghana style

Yesterday, myself and two of my girlfriends watched a production of The Vagina Monologues at the Efua Sutherland Theatre, University of Ghana, Legon. I was keen to watch the production, especially because The Vagina Monologues was banned in Uganda. I do not know the official reason given for the ban but I do recognise that some African states prevent women from openly speaking up about their sexuality (read Vagina in the case of The Vagina Monologues) so i felt really excited that in Ghana we can openly watch The Vagina Monolgues.

One of the most interesting portions of the monologue was when the women demonstrated the various sounds they make when climaxing. There was "Oh, oh, ooh, ooooh,ooooohhhh", there was "Ah ahhhh, ahhhh, eiiiii"... there was even a machine gun sounding climax. Girlfriend A said to me "Do you think people make different sounds depending on their cultural background? For example, in some countries women do not make a sound when they are giving birth and in others they do". Now this was a question I have no answer to so I am asking you my beloved readers. Personally I tend to be fairly quiet during sex until I get really excited but I have also learnt that the moans are useful feedback for your lover. If you do not moan when you are enjoying a particular touch or act how does your lover know to continue?

What are your thoughts?

Nana Darkoa