We walk into “The Love Shack” and we’re welcomed by a be-tattoed “biker looking” woman who wants to know if there is anything in particular we’re looking for. I am with my co-contributor on this blog (we have also decided to do a double post on our sex toy shopping experience). I am not looking for anything in particular, I just want to see what else there is in the sex toy world. I ask if she stocks the Screaming O which a reader of this blog recommends; she’s out of stock but shows me the leaflet. I realise that the Screaming O is actually the name of a range of sex toys. According to our sales assistant/manager/owner she and her hubby love the Screaming O. Drat; I wish it was in stock.
We’re the only women in the shop. Abena points out to me a huge black man who heads straight for the Gay Porn section. Hmmm, one really should not stereotype. A skinny white man is also in the film section. There is nothing in the vibrator section which grabs my interest. At this point in time I am thinking “Do you really need more than one vibrator”. Ohmigod! I see the hugest longest vibrator ever; it must be like 20 inches, what does one do with a thing that huge. I also see a purple double vibrator, I don’t think that’s the technical name but the vibrator is designed to go into two people together. Oh yes, and I spot the pleasure beads that Chrysalis commented about...
We want to go to the film section now but somehow I feel uncomfortable with huge black guy and skinny white man being there...we linger a bit longer in the vibrator section but it doesn’t look like the men will be leaving anytime soon so we just walk over. None of the films look appealing at all! One film cover is of a woman with a penis in every possible crevice and cum all over her face. Eugh!
I decide I do not like the environment and so we leave. I want an environment that’s more friendly to women. The typical Ann Summers shop is much nicer, I had also heard some time ago about Sh, a sex shop in London which is for women only. From what I had heard, men can only visit the shop if they are accompanied by a woman. There is a solution though and a day later we trek to the home of a Pure Romance saleswoman. In anticipation of our visit she has arranged on her living table an assortment of vibrators, massage oils, edible creams and books. Ah, this is more like it, definitely a friendlier environment. I have issues with some of the stuff she tries to sell me, such as the lubricant that keeps on re-moisturising so you never get dry. Apparently it’s very popular with women. I’m sorry; if I am dry then you need to work harder!
Now I know I said what’s the point of having two vibrators but I end up buying a vibrator. Now this vibrator is really unique. There is a protrusion at one end which is supposed to stimulate your G spot and a concave dip on the opposite side which is for clitoral stimulation. Even better, the range is being discontinued so the vibrator is a bargain at $10 a pop. I buy two.
Nana Darkoa
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Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Sunday, March 1, 2009
On Anal Sex, Pornography and Sex Toys
One of the commenter’s on a previous post wanted to know our thoughts on anal sex, pornography and sex toys. I can’t speak for Abena so as usual I shall speak for myself.
Anal Sex – I have tried it once and I’m not a big fan. I may even go so far to say never again. Saying that, I don’t think the real issue was the act itself but the emotional context in which the act took place. At the time I was in the dying stages of a relationship and my partner at the time decided that the one thing he wanted was to have anal sex with me, He badgered me until I agreed (needless to say I have outgrown consenting to acts that I am not 100% up for). So he started, got about halfway through and then started crying, “I’m so sorry”. I ended up comforting him, “Don’t worry, its fine” but I was the one who ended up with a sore arse.
On the other hand one of my girlfriend raves about the joys of anal sex (I am sure she will not mind me paraphrasing her here). She and her boyfriend decided “Yep, we want to try anal” and so she did her research... bought the best lubes on the market, bought an anal dildo to practice with and away they went. According to her you can get the most amazing sensations from anal sex. However, she’s the only friend who has told me about her experiences of anal sex. I am interested in the opinion of other women. Are you like me? Do you think never again, not in a million years or do you think Yep, greatest thing since cunninlingus?
Pornography – I have mixed feelings about pornography. From having read people like Andrea Dworkin I know that there is a school of thought that believes pornography encourages rape and sexual violence. I am also concerned that there are millions of women who are trafficked, abused and exploited in the sex industry (of which pornography is a part). Another concern is that the majority of pornography is made for the male gaze, so shot in ways that are more likely to titillate men...what is up with shoving humongous dicks in the face of women or spraying semen all over a woman’s face? That is definitely not a turn for me. I have watched pornography though, on my own and with partners (With one partner we ended up throwing away all the videos because I started over analyzing the scenes) A friend once gave me some lesbian porn which I thought was incredibly erotic (I tell you I was sad to give those DVDs back). I have also researched some women friendly porn videos – shot by women and for the woman’s gaze, so designed to please women. No sperm shots here.
Sex toys – I love sex toys! Really I don’t have much to say on the subject except the rabbit is the best invention ever. Tip for the ladies – when you and your partner are having sex doggy style hold the ears of the rabbit against your clit. You will have the best orgasm of your life ever! At least, that always works for me.
Nana Darkoa
Anal Sex – I have tried it once and I’m not a big fan. I may even go so far to say never again. Saying that, I don’t think the real issue was the act itself but the emotional context in which the act took place. At the time I was in the dying stages of a relationship and my partner at the time decided that the one thing he wanted was to have anal sex with me, He badgered me until I agreed (needless to say I have outgrown consenting to acts that I am not 100% up for). So he started, got about halfway through and then started crying, “I’m so sorry”. I ended up comforting him, “Don’t worry, its fine” but I was the one who ended up with a sore arse.
On the other hand one of my girlfriend raves about the joys of anal sex (I am sure she will not mind me paraphrasing her here). She and her boyfriend decided “Yep, we want to try anal” and so she did her research... bought the best lubes on the market, bought an anal dildo to practice with and away they went. According to her you can get the most amazing sensations from anal sex. However, she’s the only friend who has told me about her experiences of anal sex. I am interested in the opinion of other women. Are you like me? Do you think never again, not in a million years or do you think Yep, greatest thing since cunninlingus?
Pornography – I have mixed feelings about pornography. From having read people like Andrea Dworkin I know that there is a school of thought that believes pornography encourages rape and sexual violence. I am also concerned that there are millions of women who are trafficked, abused and exploited in the sex industry (of which pornography is a part). Another concern is that the majority of pornography is made for the male gaze, so shot in ways that are more likely to titillate men...what is up with shoving humongous dicks in the face of women or spraying semen all over a woman’s face? That is definitely not a turn for me. I have watched pornography though, on my own and with partners (With one partner we ended up throwing away all the videos because I started over analyzing the scenes) A friend once gave me some lesbian porn which I thought was incredibly erotic (I tell you I was sad to give those DVDs back). I have also researched some women friendly porn videos – shot by women and for the woman’s gaze, so designed to please women. No sperm shots here.
Sex toys – I love sex toys! Really I don’t have much to say on the subject except the rabbit is the best invention ever. Tip for the ladies – when you and your partner are having sex doggy style hold the ears of the rabbit against your clit. You will have the best orgasm of your life ever! At least, that always works for me.
Nana Darkoa
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